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UK Boarding Schools | Helena Frith Powell | Published Author & Editor tells her take on boarding schools

Helena Frith Powell, lives in between Abu Dhabi and the UK, and is a published author of several books including her latest book, The Ex-Factor, and a best-selling author of Love In a Warm Climate.  Helena has almost 20 years experience in journalism and still writes for the Daily Mail UK and is the Editor of Five Magazine in Abu Dhabi.  Helena and her husband have 3 children currently at boarding school, and she shares her personal feelings about a much debated system.

The children have now been at boarding school for a year and a half and I am still not really sure what I think of it all. Having never been to boarding school, it was never one of those things I was adamant I wanted to do, although I could see the benefits and was jealous of all my friends who went.

It all started with a bike ride. Bertrand Russell, the philosopher, returned from a bicycle ride with the realisation that he no longer loved his wife and told her that they must separate. My husband returned from cycling in the Languedoc hills two summers ago with a similar epiphany, although his concerned the children, not me. “We must send the children to boarding school,” he said, before going upstairs for a shower.

When a man comes back from a bike ride with something to say, one is forced to listen and, sometimes, even to act. In fact, our children’s education had been worrying me too.

We had been based in Abu Dhabi for six years by then and I felt there was something missing from their lives. One of our friends from France summed it up when he came to stay by saying that Olivia was “running on empty”. There just wasn’t enough to stimulate them in Abu Dhabi, at least not in terms of education. I still don’t believe that a school that finishes at 2.30 pm can possibly be teaching them enough. Added to which, it was expensive. And as we were spending our own money we decided we would rather spend it on something more worthwhile.

As I said they have now been there for a year and a half. There is no doubting the benefits. All of them have flourished. Leo has developed into a gorgeous little gentleman and already knows more than I do about just about everything. He has captained his school football and cricket teams. Bea has turned out to be a school superstar, with great grades and masses of extra-curricular activities such as the school play, musical theatre and netball to mention a few. Olivia has become a lovely, confident and capable young lady, who is on track to do really well in her GCSEs this year and has made friends I think she will know forever.

There are so many upsides; the education (obviously), the people they meet, the things they do (Leo’s school just raised money for Afghanistan by reading poetry for 24 hours in a tree-house, nuts I know, but what a lovely romantic idea), the sport they play, the values they learn, the bonds they make. But what are the downsides?

I suppose the biggest one is that I miss them. OK I won’t pretend to miss the everyday drudgery of the school run, the homework, and the endless bickering. But I do miss not seeing them every day and not kissing them goodnight. The girls are much better at keeping in touch with me than Leo, so we skype or talk every day, but sometimes I won’t hear from him for ten days, which is tough. I rely on texts from another mother to know how he got on in his football matches. And of course I wake up in the middle of the night wondering how he is.

The truth is of course, he’s fine. He’s more than fine. If he weren’t fine I would hear about it. We have had some bouts of homesickness from all three and I can confirm the saying about boarding school that ‘you’re only as happy as your most miserable child’. A year and a half in though they are all pretty settled and I think would be horrified at the thought of going back to school in Abu Dhabi.

I suppose the reason I say I’m not sure what I think about it is that although I know it’s the best thing for them, I still can’t help wondering if we are all missing out on family life. Having said that I worked out the other day that they have five months at home so we have plenty of that as well.

I don’t think there always is a right or a wrong when it comes to children. Maybe there is just a middle ground that works and for the moment at least, this is it.

Helena Frith Powell is the author of The Ex-Factor published by Gibson Square.  You can follow Helena on her blog www.helenafrithpowell.com and purchase her books on Amazon.co.uk

What tops the Dirty Dozen list? | The Dirty Dozen Fruits & Vegetables 2013

What is the Dirty Dozen?

These are fruits and vegetables that have been tested for the amount of pesticide residues in certain fresh crops and since most foods in Dubai have been imported mainly from Europe and US, it is important to know what to select for your children and family.  Going organic can be very expensive in Dubai especially compared to the UK.  When I lived in the UK for over 20 years, I really didn’t appreciate that farms were just down the road growing lovely fresh organic vegetables.   Now that I am a mother living in Dubai, organic really means a lot to my family.  I am relieved that demand for organic in the UAE has boomed and the last 2 years has seen a growth of organic vegetable markets.  There are several options like Ripe Market and Greenheart Organic Markets that also offer home deliveries that sell more affordable vegetables and fruits.

If your budget is tight focus on buying organic with the Dirty Dozen listed below whilst buying conventional from the second group below (The Clean Fifteen).  Please note however that this list does change so please check it directly with the website for more up-to-date lists.

Quoting from the EWG.org website

Some interesting facts

  • Every sample of imported nectarines tested positive for pesticides, followed by apples; 99% of apple samples tested positive for at least one pesticide residue.
  • The average potato had much higher total weight of pesticides than any other food crop.
  • A single grape tested positive for 15 pesticides.  The same was true for a single sweet bell pepper.  Single samples of celery, cherry tomatoes and sweet bells peppers tested positive for 13 different pesticides apeice.

‘EWG analysed pesticide residue testing data from the U.S.Department of Agriculture and Food and Drug Administration to come up with rankings for these popular fresh produce items.  All 12 items are listed below from worst to best. (lower numbers = more pesticides)’

Dirty Dozen 2013

  1. Apples
  2. Celery
  3. Cherry Tomatoes
  4. Cucumbers
  5. Grapes
  6. Hot Peppers
  7. Nectarines – imported
  8. Peaches
  9. Potatoes
  10. Spinach
  11. Strawberries
  12. Sweet bell peppers
  13. ++Kale
  14. ++Courgettes

The Clean Fifteen for 2013

  1. Asparagus
  2. Avocadoes
  3. Cabbage
  4. Cantaloupe
  5. Sweet corn
  6. Eggplant
  7. Grapefruit
  8. Kiwi
  9. Mangoes
  10. Mushrooms
  11. Onions
  12. Papayas
  13. Pineapples
  14. Sweet peas (frozen)
  15. Sweet Potatoes

Louise Nichol | Editor of Harper’s Baazar Arabia

Louise Nichol is the Editor-in-Chief of the premier luxury fashion magazine, Harper’s Baazar Arabia.  She is married to Andrew and they have one daughter, born just over a year ago in Dubai, called Leo. Louise is one mother who I admire for countless reasons but, most  of all, I admire her ability to prioritise what is important when it comes to her family and career.  She tells us how she juggles pressures of a demanding career with a young family and she also shares with us about what is important to her when it comes to Leo’s upbringing, her fears and worries, and what qualities she hopes to instill in her little girl.

Congratulations to Andrew and you on Leo’s first birthday.  She is just a gorgeous little girl with an incredible wardrobe!  Thank you so much for taking time out to talk to SOTP.

1.    How would you describe your childhood?  Were your parents strict on you being the oldest?  Do you think your parents became more relax as they got down to number 5?

So strict! I always complain that my sister (who is 12 years younger than me) has the cushtiest ride. But I don’t mind really… Much.

 2.    Has having your own child changed your view of your parents?  What will you take from your mother’s teaching to pass down to Leo.

Mummy is an incredible mother – she still devotes everything to us. I could never hope to replicate her selflessness. She encouraged me to follow my dreams and really supported me in my education and career (journalism is not the best-paid job when you’re starting out). I hope I can do the same for Leo.

3.    What do you vow never to do with Leo? (we will check in on you on 10 years time …HA!)

Plonk her in front of the TV. Let’s see how long this lasts! We are pretty free and easy with letting her loose on our iPhones though; my aim is for her to be writing code by the age of five and running Google by 12, so Andrew and I can retire. Although, while I am definitely pro-technology, if she doesn’t like reading books (or a Kindle), my heart will break.

4.    You look amazing, and Leo is a year old.  How did you get back into shape so quickly?  What is your exercise regime?

I wish that were true. I exercised throughout my pregnancy, which kept my strength up, but I also ate for England, gaining nearly 25 kilos (won’t be doing that again if we have another baby, inshallah). It was hard to get moving again after her birth as breastfeeding Leo was a round-the-clock job but by three months I forced myself to carve out some time for the gym and the occasional run round Safa Park. I now do CrossFit-style workouts. Andrew and I share a trainer, Marlene, and she is completely invested in the health and wellbeing of our family; we are so lucky to have someone as amazing as her in our corner. Leo is a massive motivation as I want us to be active together as a family – and for her to be proud of me come parents’ races at school sports days. I am so taking gold in the egg-and-spoon race!

5.    What kind of parents would you describe Andrew and you?  Do you have the same parenting beliefs or do you slightly differ on certain fundamentals on parenting?

I think we’re pretty similar. He’s very supportive of all my choices, which is invaluable in a partner. Although he would probably prefer it if I spent a bit less on Leo’s clothes!

6.    You have an amazing career so how do you balance Leo, Andrew and work?

I am lucky to have an incredible team at Harper’s Bazaar; without them I couldn’t have returned to work. At home, our nanny Dories is part of the family; we all love her to bits and I have no idea how we functioned without her. Andrew and I try to make sure we have a date night once a week, although, let’s be honest, we end up talking about Leo all night.

 7.    What do you feel most guilty about when it comes to Leo?

Not being there. I time my working day so that I can wake her up at 7am and put her to bed at 6pm each night, but I am still at work from 8am-5pm five days a week. However, even though she took her first steps while I was at the office, it was such a joyous time that I genuinely didn’t mind missing it; I just couldn’t wait for the weekend to get her into the park.

8.    Now that Leo is eating solids, what is your take on organic foods?  What percentage of her food is organic?

We buy organic where there’s an easily available option, but we don’t go out of our way to look for it. I am super-strict on no sugar or processed foods, however, and all of Leo’s food is cooked from scratch (by Dories; I can’t claim credit!). We base her meals on Annabel Karmel recipes, with a few tweaks. I breast-fed her for a year before she lost interest (much to my disappointment, although it was a relief to stop pumping at work), which I hope got her nutrition off to a good start.

9.    Motherhood can sometimes be relentless and isolating for all mums.  Can you describe one of your last mummy meltdowns?  What do you need to do to ‘pull it’ together again?

When Leo was about four months old and I had not slept for longer than an hour uninterrupted since her birth I came fairly close to cracking. The internet was my savior at this time you can always find someone who’s having a tougher time of it. Parenting websites are fantastic for reassurance that you’re not alone and that things will get better. Since the age of six months she has slept like an angel, so we got there in the end.

10.How would you describe your pregnancy and birthing experience? (Not the gory details, of course)  What was your feeling when Leo was first placed in your arms?

I LOVED being pregnant, mainly because of the unfettered access to cake it afforded me. And the excuse to go to bed at 8pm every night (mind you, I still do that now, although I have laid off the cake). I can’t lie, getting to 10cm was pretty hideous, even with an epidural, but the pushing part of the birth was great fun – I assume this was down to some crazy rush of hormones. I wouldn’t put Leo down once she was in my arms. In fact, she pooed all over me and I didn’t let go of her to get into the shower until 24 hours later.

11.As a mother, what are the three qualities you hope to instill in Leo?

Bravery, loyalty and confidence. And curiosity, drive, creativity…. Three isn’t enough!

12.What do you worry about the most about when it comes to Leo?

Getting her into a good school. I am passionate about education.

13.What have you discovered about motherhood that you wish you knew before?

That you can chill out about everything; babies normally get there on their own.

 14.What ‘mothering’ books/websites have you found useful when it comes to pregnancy or childcare?

The best birthing book I read was Birth Skills by Juju Sundin. I read, and got freaked out by, Gina Ford; especially as Leo just would not conform to any sort of timetable. I wish I’d not worried, as eventually she figured it out by herself. I loved kellymom.com for sensible info when Leo was small and I spent all night playing Words With Friends on my iPhone in between feeds.

15.What are some useful websites that you would recommend to any mother?

Kellymom.com

Askdrsears.com

16.Also, we have to ask the Harper’s Baazar Editor – who are your favourite designers for children?

Chloe for dressing up, Baby Gap for every day and Pablosky for first walking shoes.

Le Petit Palais | A Mummy’s Review

Le Petit Palais

City: Dubai

Location: Galleries Lafayette, Dubai Mall

My three children really enjoy their afternoon treats playing at Le Petit Palais.  Le Petit Palais is a soft play area for children located within the Food Court of Galleries Lafayette in Dubai Mall.  My three kids are 5 years old, 3 years old and 19 months old, and I would recommend it as a treat for the kids for some particularly hot afternoons, birthday parties or if you need to do chores in Dubai Mall.  It is a better alternative and more time-efficient for me than dragging three unenthusiastic kids around the Mall with me.  It is also an ideal place to have coffee with other mums in the Galleries Lafayette food court and you are able to look through the glass widows that overlook the Food Court to ensure that your tots are ok.

One of the other great advantages is that it is not overwhelmingly big but it has sufficient activities for the children to do, and everything has been designed with much care and thought.  Most importantly, it is well-kept, clean and there are sufficient members of staff overseeing the children.

Le Petit Palais, in my opinion, is suitable for children who are 15 months – 7 years of age.  The playground has a state-of-the-art soft play area with air jets pushing around foam balls that even my 19-month old can play with easily and safely.  Each of my children can split off to do their favourite activities.  Luca, my eldest enjoys test driving a variety of cars on their car track.  My daughter runs straight to the mini-me salon where she gets to play grown-up for a day.  She either chooses to get her nails or face-painted.  My only feedback is that the children should be offered non-toxic nail polish and makeup for more eco-warrior mums.

They also have an art corner for some creative enthusiasts, and a weekly activity program where children can sign up for Story Time, Arts & Crafts, Games and many other activities at no extra costs.

An hour in Le Petit Palais can be pricey if you have more than one child.  It is AED80 per child per hour so it does cost me a hefty AED240 each time for my three kids.  However, the second hour is only an extra AED20 per child.  I would recommend it for 2 hours to create better value, or to take their all day packages which translates as 4 hours or more.  There are also membership programs to consider.  I know my kids love it so we will definitely be back.   I know we will be dependent on this venue over the hot summer months as I won’t be travelling anywhere as my baby will be due August 21.